no more looking up danmei recs but not writing them down n never knowing what to start next!

i don't read a/b/o, mpreg, prominent dom/sub dynamics, noncon/underage s*x, sex-focused plots in general, abusive relationships, mafia, first person pov.. also im not rly keen on master/disciple n apocalyptic settings but if the story is good enough i'll consider it

i like slowburn, strong characters, fantasy elements, some humor to balance the hurt n angst, and i love it when the men r a bit pathetic <3

(current reads at the top; updates added sporadically n places r often switched, this list is as messy as it gets)