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The royal family is burdened with debt. To pay it off, they send their daughter Violet to be betrothed to Winter, the bastard son of a loaded Duke family.

Violet falls in love with Winter on first sight. But Winter’s not taken with her.

Years later, Violet decides to divorce him…but then she finds that they’ve swapped bodies.

How did this happen!? And will they be able to change back!?

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Para ayudarte a entender lo que significa ser tu
What It Means to Be You
당신의 이해를 돕기 위하여
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13 Reviews


Skite
Skite
Jun 19, 2021
Status: c15
Infuriating.

The most infuriating are the truly evil side characters. And I do mean evil. They have zero qualms setting the FL on fire to keep themselves warm, when they had many, many non-harmful options to chose instead, and were actually quite hot and didn't need warming up at all, or turning ML into a lacky who s*aves away earning money for them in exchange for emotional scraps.

FL and ML are two extremely effed up, very ab*sed people in need of significant therapy who wind up together and cannot communicate on... more>> even the simplest of things. And both refuse to ask. 75% of the problems not cause by the sociopathic side characters would disappear if they would just flipping ask, instead of skulking around, spying on each other and making assumptions. "Why are you so terrified of my parents?" "Are we actually flat broke?" "What do you do with all the presents I send you?" "Do you hate me?" Y'know, important stuff.

The rest would be resolved by paying attention to each other while they spend time together, but the husband's particular traumas make him so exceedingly bad at reading people, and the wife's make her terrified of ever complaining, so it's like watching amputees trying to run a 5k without prosthetics.

Switching bodies helps the oblivious lug of a husband FINALLY get some things, and gives the wife some much needed respite, but they both always seem to just miss the incidents that would explain everything.

Spoiler

For example, he misses out on her getting locked in a closet by his parents and threatened by her brother.

Or he goes to a party as her but, rather than the normal party behavior of them actively mocking her, which they usually do, he only experiences no one talking to him/ his wife for an hour. He never socializes outside of business, so he doesn't know this is weird, and concludes she doesn't have friends, rather than she's being actively ostracized and bullied.

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You'll want to rip your hair out. And wrap the two in cotton wool and tell everyone else in the story to f*** off and die, and never speak to them again. But, read it if you like trainwrecks, and rubber neck when you pass traffic accidents. It's the same sort of enthralling. <<less
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RRat
RRat
May 13, 2020
Status: c3
Hey! Noticed there weren't any reviews for this potentially amazing novel, so I'm just gonna put this out here.

There's only 3 chapters but those 3 chapters are damn good. This is a bit different from every other KR shoujo novel out there, but that just makes it all the more interesting for me. I'm mostly curious about how the main characters would do in their situation.

Might be a little early to judge, but I'm gonna go with my gut instinct that's screaming at me that this is a good novel... more>> and I should invest in it. <<less
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Circe
Circe
Jul 07, 2020
Status: c6 part2
Really loving this so far, I'm such a sucker for this kind of plot device, tho the current use of major misundertandings that could easily be resolved through I don't know maybe talking a little really is getting on my nerves I would actually prefer it if there was real grudge that could be developed into something else, still this is still interesting.

I'm really hoping for the drama coming later when winter finds out the way his wife's been treated so far, and also a mayor apology coming from him... more>> to her cuz man you should pay more attention to your wife.

It's still too soon to tell if it will be good, tho it has a lot of potential, hopefully there will be revenge, good scheaming and more funny moment while creating more misunderstandings but the good kind you know, the kind that make good drama, after all they are already married Romance although appreciated won't cut it for me so drama it's my aim.

i want blood, I want tears and a f*cking happy ending <<less
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mxcl
mxcl
May 05, 2021
Status: --
A pair of emotionally stunted people swap bodies due to magic and have a slightly better understanding of eachother over 240 chapters.

I found the husband more pitiable than the wife by far what with the being abandoned as a child and ens*aved multiple times thats just brushed over in favor of the wife's depression/su*cide.

It has a Manga adaptation too now.
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aydh03
aydh03
Jul 23, 2020
Status: c7 part1
I know the current chapter just until 7, but you must try to read it. I like the plot is interesting. I want to see FL and ML try to understand each other. For the translator, thankyou for the translation.
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peanutbutter_J
peanutbutter
Jul 04, 2020
Status: c6 part2
I know it's still too early to judge but, I need to give support to this story so the translator could upload faster :P.

So far it's a good read with characters that easy to understand. ML with his crude attitude, MC with her rigid but smart. When they switch body it actually help each other out but in the end they're too dense mostly attributed to how different their background or how they were raised.

My only hope was this got updated more often.
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Libertea
Libertea
May 26, 2021
Status: c1
I hope they get talking soon. And I hope those b*tches get the hell they deserve. I wonder what his reaction and actions will be after knowing that Violet, his wife, has been suffering ab*se from the 'kind family' he entrusted her with? The f*cking mother gaslighted the FL and is so eager to ab*se her. They truly deserve a life of hell. I don't want them to die without suffering first.
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Stephyy
Stephyy
Jun 29, 2020
Status: c5
This novel has really good potential and interesting plot. It started off great and very easy to understand. The translation is good, I have no problems with it. I just wish it's updated more regularly rather than once/twice a month, and I hope it won't get dropped.
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Ishi_2703
Ishi_2703
Jul 09, 2021
Status: c36
I only read the manhwa, do you know where to read the novel? I don't know how this site works, I just recently registered in here.

I got invested in this story like I really want to read the novel version but idk where. I pity but admire the FL, her in-laws are so cruel and the society is a pain in the ass. Her husband, the ML, isn't a showy person so she thought he hates her. I cried whenever the FL tries to kill herself but ended up in... more>> her husband's body. Like--she's so tired and she wants to rest but she can't: ( <<less
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ike_00000
ike_00000
Jun 13, 2021
Status: --
I REALLY LOVE THIS

Yes it's super irritating because PLEASE JUST LET THEM TALK but at the same type it's not just s*upid unnecessary misunderstandings because there's a reason these things are happening and it points to a much larger mental problem

I just cant wait until winter wipes ash's scummy face off the face of whatever planet they're on
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maven.kyland
maven.kyland
Jan 02, 2024
Status: Completed
This isn't a fluffy romance, but a story filled with angst, hate and grief. Your heart will break for the female lead and burn in fervent anger for her husband.

But then you will come to love them both in the end.

They will grow and learn, and will come to learn to love each other openly and freely. Will handle each other's emotional trauma and baggages that strengthen their relationship.

This is a good read. A story about healing and forgiveness and striving to understand the emotional turmoils that other people go... more>> through, especially those you love.

I won't give out spoilers, but I hope you give this story a chance, and it will surely help you understand just how sincere love can change a person for the better. <<less
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gucchi
gucchi
Sep 23, 2020
Status: v1c8
Love the plot, the characters, the drama and the settings so far.

I'm a sucker for this angsty type of story and the first 8 chapters hook me right off the bat so Imma give this 4/5 stars for now (might change it, depends on the flow of the story).
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Gaia_Ahl
Gaia_Ahl
Sep 08, 2024
Status: c92
I wanted to read the novel because the manhwa was taking so long. I cried at the first half of the chapters because you can really feel how Violet was really depressed within her marriage and how neglectful her husband is but as I read further more, Winter still and does pisses me off that I feel like dropping this. Violet's overflowing kindness is wasted on a man like him. I'm sorry to say this but this is a toxic relationship.

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Spoiler

He tried to kill himself twice as of the 90ish chapters and this made Violet waver on her decision to divorce especially on the 2nd try. He knows that Violet would blame herself and he knows that so he uses it to his advantage to shackle her to postpone the divorce. And in here it was said that he still doesn't believe Violet when she said he was her 1st love. This part pisses me off because Violet was the first one to apologise to him saying it was her fault for making him angry cus she told him that his parents doesn't love him and that lead to him wanting to commit su*cide by plane crash. Like wtf it's the truth but this manchild denies it and starts lashing at everyone especially at her. And the most saddest part for me was Violet giving up her wish to divorce by postponing it and giving all the authority to Winter if he solely wishes to divorce and apologises to him for bringing up the topic about his parents. This is straight up toxic and is maddening cuz I know what it feels like to be in a relationship where u want to leave but ur partner would say he would kill himself if u leave. U straight up panic and then would fully submit to him and appease him just so he won't kill himself.

In the 90ish chapter he said he still doesn't fully trust her cus of her conservatism. You can tell he DOESN'T LOVE her (yet as of this ch) but only wants her to stay because he has abandonment issues and has inferiority complex.

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Winter having the audacity to get angry when she ran away from him for a year cannot be compared to the neglect and ab*se she endured for fudgin 3 YEARS! And it's so sad that Violet still loves him and Winter doesn't respect her decisions. Oh and even readers would just say "cus of his past traumas" that doesn't give the excuse to ab*se Violet mentally and emotionally. <<less
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