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The royal family is burdened with debt. To pay it off, they send their daughter Violet to be betrothed to Winter, the bastard son of a loaded Duke family.

Violet falls in love with Winter on first sight. But Winter’s not taken with her.

Years later, Violet decides to divorce him…but then she finds that they’ve swapped bodies.

How did this happen!? And will they be able to change back!?

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RRat rated it
May 13, 2020
Status: c3
Hey! Noticed there weren't any reviews for this potentially amazing novel, so I'm just gonna put this out here.

There's only 3 chapters but those 3 chapters are damn good. This is a bit different from every other KR shoujo novel out there, but that just makes it all the more interesting for me. I'm mostly curious about how the main characters would do in their situation.

Might be a little early to judge, but I'm gonna go with my gut instinct that's screaming at me that this is a good novel... more>> and I should invest in it. <<less
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June 19, 2021
Status: c15

The most infuriating are the truly evil side characters. And I do mean evil. They have zero qualms setting the FL on fire to keep themselves warm, when they had many, many non-harmful options to chose instead, and were actually quite hot and didn't need warming up at all, or turning ML into a lacky who s*aves away earning money for them in exchange for emotional scraps.

FL and ML are two extremely effed up, very abused people in need of significant therapy who wind up together and cannot communicate on... more>> even the simplest of things. And both refuse to ask. 75% of the problems not cause by the sociopathic side characters would disappear if they would just flipping ask, instead of skulking around, spying on each other and making assumptions. "Why are you so terrified of my parents?" "Are we actually flat broke?" "What do you do with all the presents I send you?" "Do you hate me?" Y'know, important stuff.

The rest would be resolved by paying attention to each other while they spend time together, but the husband's particular traumas make him so exceedingly bad at reading people, and the wife's make her terrified of ever complaining, so it's like watching amputees trying to run a 5k without prosthetics.

Switching bodies helps the oblivious lug of a husband FINALLY get some things, and gives the wife some much needed respite, but they both always seem to just miss the incidents that would explain everything.


For example, he misses out on her getting locked in a closet by his parents and threatened by her brother.

Or he goes to a party as her but, rather than the normal party behavior of them actively mocking her, which they usually do, he only experiences no one talking to him/ his wife for an hour. He never socializes outside of business, so he doesn't know this is weird, and concludes she doesn't have friends, rather than she's being actively ostracized and bullied.


You'll want to rip your hair out. And wrap the two in cotton wool and tell everyone else in the story to f*** off and die, and never speak to them again. But, read it if you like trainwrecks, and rubber neck when you pass traffic accidents. It's the same sort of enthralling. <<less
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July 7, 2020
Status: c6 part2
Really loving this so far, I'm such a sucker for this kind of plot device, tho the current use of major misundertandings that could easily be resolved through I don't know maybe talking a little really is getting on my nerves I would actually prefer it if there was real grudge that could be developed into something else, still this is still interesting.

I'm really hoping for the drama coming later when winter finds out the way his wife's been treated so far, and also a mayor apology coming from him... more>> to her cuz man you should pay more attention to your wife.

It's still too soon to tell if it will be good, tho it has a lot of potential, hopefully there will be revenge, good scheaming and more funny moment while creating more misunderstandings but the good kind you know, the kind that make good drama, after all they are already married Romance although appreciated won't cut it for me so drama it's my aim.

i want blood, I want tears and a f*cking happy ending <<less
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mxcl rated it
May 5, 2021
Status: --
A pair of emotionally stunted people swap bodies due to magic and have a slightly better understanding of eachother over 240 chapters.

I found the husband more pitiable than the wife by far what with the being abandoned as a child and ens*aved multiple times thats just brushed over in favor of the wife's depression/su*cide.

It has a Manga adaptation too now.
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aydh03 rated it
July 23, 2020
Status: c7 part1
I know the current chapter just until 7, but you must try to read it. I like the plot is interesting. I want to see FL and ML try to understand each other. For the translator, thankyou for the translation.
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peanutbutter_J rated it
July 4, 2020
Status: c6 part2
I know it's still too early to judge but, I need to give support to this story so the translator could upload faster :P.

So far it's a good read with characters that easy to understand. ML with his crude attitude, MC with her rigid but smart. When they switch body it actually help each other out but in the end they're too dense mostly attributed to how different their background or how they were raised.

My only hope was this got updated more often.
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May 26, 2021
Status: c1
I hope they get talking soon. And I hope those b*tches get the hell they deserve. I wonder what his reaction and actions will be after knowing that Violet, his wife, has been suffering abuse from the 'kind family' he entrusted her with? The f*cking mother gaslighted the FL and is so eager to abuse her. They truly deserve a life of hell. I don't want them to die without suffering first.
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June 29, 2020
Status: c5
This novel has really good potential and interesting plot. It started off great and very easy to understand. The translation is good, I have no problems with it. I just wish it's updated more regularly rather than once/twice a month, and I hope it won't get dropped.
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Ishi_2703 rated it
July 9, 2021
Status: c36
I only read the manhwa, do you know where to read the novel? I don't know how this site works, I just recently registered in here.

I got invested in this story like I really want to read the novel version but idk where. I pity but admire the FL, her in-laws are so cruel and the society is a pain in the ass. Her husband, the ML, isn't a showy person so she thought he hates her. I cried whenever the FL tries to kill herself but ended up in... more>> her husband's body. Like--she's so tired and she wants to rest but she can't: ( <<less
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June 13, 2021
Status: --

Yes it's super irritating because PLEASE JUST LET THEM TALK but at the same type it's not just s*upid unnecessary misunderstandings because there's a reason these things are happening and it points to a much larger mental problem

I just cant wait until winter wipes ash's scummy face off the face of whatever planet they're on
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gucchi rated it
September 23, 2020
Status: v1c8
Love the plot, the characters, the drama and the settings so far.
I'm a sucker for this angsty type of story and the first 8 chapters hook me right off the bat so Imma give this 4/5 stars for now (might change it, depends on the flow of the story).
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