When the FL was was talking with that Pan guy (the one that attacked the male lead). She was like "everyone suffers. So you're not special." Sorry but this is plain s*upid. That's like saying "everyone has suffered from a crime, so you're not special" while we all know that r@pe isn't comparable to someone stealing from you.

Just because everyone has "suffered", doesn't mean that the level and the way is the same. So NO. Not everyone is the same! I think the majority would gladly choose the suffering the original FL had experienced than what the guy Pan experienced. But it's the same, why would people do that? Why would people choose one suffering from the other? Because it's different.

Yes, they are still responsible for their mistakes, even if I sympathize with them and realize that if I were in their shoes, the chance would be high that I'd do the same. They still have to bear the consequences. But to be so dismisssive (like; dude, you're not special. Everyone has suffered) when the FL knows that her own son was in that circle before her reincarnation, is kind of narrow-minded of her.

I expected more from her. Especially as she's trying to "counsel" people. Her son got the benefit of meeting a person that could change the direction he was going to, before it was too late, but not everyone has that luck/luxury.

That hint of narrow-mindedness was shown multiple times. For example with the husband of the sister of the ml. He ended up a bad guy but her premise of: spoiled when someone forced him was honestly shocking for me. Isn't she supposed to be open-minded? Did that fly out of the window at that moment?

The ML only really changed with the fl. With his children he stayed the same, even after years of getting along well.

In the beginning I understood why he was so detached from his children and the only thing he really had was a sense of responsibility for them. But of this detachment can change for his wife, why not with his children too? Just to highlight the charm the FL has?

Every freaking positive thought we saw of him was about the fl. Even when the family was laughing and having fun and being amusing, he never thought things like "my children are amusing" or being happy about how his children were laughing. It was always in the perspective of "I love how my wife is laughing".

Wife, wife, wife. I was already getting irritated by it, but I still had hope. Especially after he took some hits for Sanwang. Because Danwang was thinking "father's love is like a mountain", I thought it would be the start of something new. But no. It never came.

Only that chapter he had himself beaten for the child and the one where the FL was on the phone with Danwang and the FL was saying in her head that the eyebrows were more gentle, were literally the only two indicators that he loved and cared about them.

But that's really not enough for me. After no more indicators after all those chapters (only contra-indicators), that taking the punishment for the child thing became impure for me. In the sense that he only did it because the FL was begging with his eye or/and because the sense of responsibility. As it seems like that was the only thing he had for the children. And the second one with the phone became a "familiarity brings calm" thing.

At the the end I was completely disappointed. Especially that part where the children got punished for a mistake the FL made! She makes a mistake but you can't bear to punish her directly only indirectly by punishing the children? Wow. I was seriously irritated with him at that moment. If it was a choice like "do you want to get stronger so that you can protect your mother", I would not be so disgusted as I was at that moment.

Seriously, he only thought about driving his kids away. And when they were away, not a single thought about missing them. Not even a little. That was not cute. I get him wanting to experience a relationship of a couple before having kids. I understand. But not in this way. You can enjoy and be thrilled about a new chapter of your life, but still be sad and miss your children.

The FL lead also utterly failed in this department. She was like "stimulate his strengths and helping with his weaknesses" or something like that but she failed. Only thing that changed was him loving the FL and doing more and more for her. Not blaming the FL her but I had hope because of this.

He was a cr@ppy dad from beginning till the end. In the beginning, he could only think of his job and never spare a thought for his family. And afterwards it was the wife and job. But children? Nah~~

Only when he needed them to be able to protect the wife after the burglary attempt. Or when the FL basically "forced" it.

Somehow I feel that the author made ML personality somewhat missed up, he looks too cold with low EQ but holds a relatively high position that requires high EQ. the writer also made him ONLY affectionate to the MC which is a little.. mm.. yeah I agree with the previous review, it's a little too much to make his feelings dead and only shows up if its about the MC.

another problem is self centered view point (if I used the correct words) which is a common problem with almost all the CN novels I read, people act strange when it comes to the MC and as long as it's something the MC does or is in favor of him/her it's right even if it's wrong and if it's against the MC it's wrong even if it's right. This novel didn't go too far like some others but it's still annoying for me sometimes

personally I feel that the ending was too sudden and the extra chapters were somewhat ruched and could have been done better, I also wish the novel was longer and has more chapters, sigh...

1.) MC is from the recent times, but she can't even talk about Health education with her sons and daughter -heck even with her husband. MC can't event tell her husband about cond*ms when they obviously need it every night. She just keeps saying nonsense things; it's infuriating. Even when she knows that it's a bad thing for children to be so ignorant about s3x and hygiene education, she still doesn't educate her kids and let them figure these things out themselves BECAUSE SHE'S TOO SHY? Wtf women in their commune get taken advantage of and have twisted outlook regarding their bodies and yet you don't educate your kids because you're too shy to talk about it? Mind you - she's a propaganda leader for women's education regarding this stuff.

• The FL ends up joining the propaganda brigade to educate people about some things, which at first was fine. But the longer she went on and the more she was promoted, of course the more actual propaganda she had to spout to her kids and to other characters, so that ended up pretty annoying.
• The third son ends up going overseas and that was terrible to read. I always cringe when Chinese novels try to set things outside of China and bring in foreign characters because these authors are always terrible at it.
• For the overarching plot, for some reason, the author ended the main text before it was resolved? And then used the extras to resolve it... did the author forget about it and was reminded by the readers? Lol it was just weird that the main hidden plot was solved via extras and not the actual novel.
  
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She was a genuine tragic heroine. Terrible in-laws, unsupportive husband (Yes, it's the ML), blindness towards kind mother whom she thought to be uncaring, etc. The pregnancy and birth of each of the children had eaten away her patience with her in-laws and her love towards her children. Her helplessness at being unable to provide anything for them, and looking at their broken and miserable state made her unconsciously want to see a loved child, her nephew from the younger brother's side. Since her youngest whom she gave birth to, was sick, traumatized, and unable to behave normally, she preferred a healthy nephew over her sick one. Her preference and love towards Mai Sui show that she wasn't incapable of loving, but rather her intolerance for the things that were out of her control. The youngest child was despised because his birth was traumatic to OG Lin Lan (referring to the near-death experience due to a kick from a village woman who admired FL's husband)

OG Lin Lan's behavior of taking fancy things to show off in her parents' house could be explained as a subconscious act to show the parents that she's also blessed. Her parents mostly wanted her to be happily married, and would have provided for her has she asked for it, but she didn't borrow from the parents, ever. One by one, she gave birth to five children without help from anyone, even the mother-in-law was as shrewd as possible, and would take away all the money sent by the husband of OG Lin Lan. A starving Lin Lan could see the blatant favoritism the MIL showed but couldn't fight back because the husband was never there for her. Whenever the husband returned, he would just bang her into pregnancy and leave again (how I want to respect these kinds of people with the bottom of a shoe!), and timid OG Lin Lan never got to complain.

The transmigration is like a whole different story, with a handsome kind husband, and mature children. OG Lin Lan deserved something like this. I feel sad for her, period

Dawang at least tries to revenge his parents' death in the novel by killing the villains, that's his filial piety, but ML doesn't deserve it.

At one point when Han QingSong felt the insecurity because he's dreamt about LinLan dying/disappeared then he acted up on spot got me sneered and want to smack him a little.

He was the one who make original Lin Lan felt so insecure that later leads to all the destruction points. Never care what his mother did to his family. Because of his habit to not speaking irritated me so much.

Somehow I felt like the original LinLan is the past life of LinLan. That's why she didn't feel like forming a family or liking the child in modern era. And then fate lead her back to the past life. That's why she can get the memory of original LinLan when she transmigrated plus CaiHua POV make it feels like this isn't about wearing a book character but actually traverse back to the past.

Firstly, the ML's attitude towards the childrens. At the beginning, it makes sense that he didn't have deep feelings for his childrens since he rarely ever saw them but as the story progressed, I am quite disappointed with him as he never takes the initiative to get closer to his childrens unless the FL told him to. And towards the end, I hate how he used the childrens to punish the FL for a mistake that's not even the children's fault because he couldn't bear to punish the FL. So yeah, he kinda lost my respect after that.

Secondly and probably the issue that single handedly made me almost wanted to stop reading the novel a few times but I couldn't bear to, is how the writer glorify communism (I'm honestly surprised I haven't seen a single review talking about this). And what baffled me the most is the fact that MC is supposed to be from the modern day but still glorify and almost worshipping Chairman Mao and the communist ideology despite the hardships and suffering they brought to the country. But, I kinda get it as the conditions of China at the time was very harsh to those who oppose the party at the time. It made me very uncomfortable but I skipped most of the part concerning the issue so it doesn't bothers me as much.