If You Are a Dodder Flower

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In her previous life, she tried her best, she struggled. In the end, she has lost to her own mediocrity.

In this life, she resigned to her fate.

After her mother passed away, Xia Rou reincarnated as an orphan and she got taken in by her mother’s lover. Once again she stepped into Cao family, and once again she had to confront the people she loved and hated…

She dares not to expect anything, only except that she won’t suffer any more in this life…

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nakita
nakita rated it
September 20, 2020
Status: Completed
People who read reincarnation stories know that A lot of that kind of stories The First life Where The female lead is s*upid to The core and in The second life somehow The s*upid One become genius.

this is not that kind of stories our female lead makes A lot of mistakes and in The second life she is so Sweet I loved this storie
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Onymous
Onymous rated it
September 17, 2020
Status: Completed
i don't know why a lot of people have bad ratings amd reviews about this but for me it was an amusing read.

The past few days I've been reading novels that piques my interest from the start and then bore me later on.

This was the first that broke me out of that curse. My interest was always at its peak from start to end. I wanted to know what would happen next and the consequence of that is that I haven't slept for 32 hours. Just so I could binge... more>> read this.

It's totally a nice story. You could see the MC has the right heart. She changed from her past self to becoming more honest and more humble than before.

I don't know about the other people who said that MC did nothjng to change the bad stuff but she did.

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She adviced fourth brother about his relationship instead of just being a by stander. And she actuvely tried to become better at her studies so as to not burden the family who feeds and cloths her. She even tried her best to get ML and Wang Man together and not get jn the way because she thought she was the reason why they didn't last together.

The only thing bad though was how ML drastically changed their status at the end. He was forceful and in the end it broke her. But ML knew he was wrong. He regretted and lamented. Even compromising that he would stay as her older brother if she really wanted him to.

Both characters had flaws but they complimented each other and they become the world to wach other.

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The oy thing I hated about this is the ending. I MEAN COME ON!!! Even an epilogue please! The ending was too abrupt! I want a wedding scenario please. A babies scenario. The happy and contented scenario!!! Answer my pleas, Please! <<less
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Sutad Aatma
Sutad Aatma rated it
September 6, 2020
Status: --
I would give it 0.5 stars if I could. That.5 is for translation but the site does not even deserve one star. Why tf are you splitting an average chapter into 4 parts?! Is this an essay writing competition with word limit?
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First of all, we have low-key in*est vibes. The ML repeatedly says, I think of her as a little sister and yada yada still has wet dreams for her ¬-¬

Second, MC knows about the lover and 4th brother but makes no move to improve their relationship or help them wtf.

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Third and foremost THE BOOK REEKS OF MISOGYNY

Girls should be obedient. They just need to get married. They should be delicate. Oh sod off!

Although the initial stages of the book is kinda good, the ending is very rushed and the main couple does not even have any chemistry tbh.

The plot is very average since MC makes no move to do anything beyond normal. I honestly stuck through the end because I wanted to know what happened to 4th brother. But disappointment level is max. This entire book was frustrating! The chapter splits were even more frustrating! Reading this was as frustrating as reading the Abandoned Empress but at least that had some plot! This entire novel is ohhh I will just chill by myself and her brother lusting over her. Tr*shta was better than her. <<less
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chande
chande rated it
August 26, 2020
Status: Completed
Usually, rebirth novel is my cup of tea and I have a lot expectations for this novel despite its low rating. It start off good but it's getting worse near the end.

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And ML is the worst of all. He plays big brother role well in the beginning but turns bad when changing his role as a boyfriend. He destroyed MC's first ever relationship (in current life) although he's the one who encouraged MC to have a relationship in the first place.

And then he forces MC to accept him as a boyfriend right away without giving any chance for MC to breathe. He even couldn't hold his desire to have s*x with MC not long after he becomes her boyfriend. No wonder MC suffers a depression in the end. And even after MC suffers a depression, ML still persists to pester her and make her depression getting worse.

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Honestly, this novel has a lot of potential if the ending is not rushed.

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  • Author should write more about MC's journey to overcome her depression from MC's POV.
  • MC should take her time to sort out her feeling towards ML and doesn't easily accept ML's feeling after overcoming her depression.
  • I want to know more about their relationship after she's back from abroad. I want to see their wedding life and their kids too.
  • I want to know more about the aftermath after her death in the previous life. Did ML get revenge for MC? Did ML fall in love with MC too in her previous life?
  • What about Cao An and He Chengze? Will Cao An come out of closet and make his relationship public? Or do they decide to separate for good and move on from their toxic relationship?
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happydot
happydot rated it
July 5, 2020
Status: Completed
This novel looks like your typical romance novel on the surface, but beneath it lies a whole swamp of darkness. It's uncomfortable to read, but there's something about it that forces you to keep reading. Too bad, though, the author rushed the ending. If it weren't for the rushed ending, I would have rated this five stars.
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Bookworm_Sueweetie
Bookworm_Sueweetie rated it
June 10, 2020
Status: Completed
I think this novel is kinda unique compared to other rebirth/transmigrated plots.

I actually like that after MC's rebirth she didn't seek for revenge for those who wronged her... but instead used her 2nd chance to show her gratefulness and appreciation to the people who cared for her. She is self-aware of her faults that resulted in her death in 1st life.

I also love that the MC is not too OP or genius after her rebirth unlike other novels. She was hardworker and studied hard. She may be considered as... more>> weak by many readers but I can understood her reasons on her obedience and being reliant to Cao Family bc her previous attitude with too much pride, stubborness and arrogance only made her miserable in 1st life.

It is fun to read the fluff moments and her interactions with her "brothers" and uncle.. two-thirds of the story is really light but the last few chapters are kinda heavy and dark especially when the MC became mentally unstable and can't separate the 1st and 2nd lifetimes in dealing her feelings.

I just felt so unsatisfied not only because of the rushness of the ending... but I was expecting that there will be an extra chapters for the following:

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- explanation of her rebirth
- past life Cao Yang's real feelings to XR (if he truly loved her in the past) and how he took revenge to Liang Family
- Xia Ruo's POV during her stay abroad, mental/emotional struggles, about her treatment and realizations plus reasons on why she chose Cao Yang and how she came in terms in her feelings for him.

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In terms of ML:

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Actually, I don't really care whether she ended up with Cao Yang and Wei Qi... both really truly loved her. They treated her well in 1st and 2nd life.

Wei Qi is a perfect bf material and I experienced 2nd lead syndrome due to him, I'm sad bc Xia Ruo was assured to experience a normal, peaceful and happy life with him... sadly, their cute moments were cut so early...

I don't mind the age gap with Cao Yang and he always care and protected her. It was just saddening that Cao Yang despite a good brother and protector became rushed and boorish in dealing his love for Xia Ruo that it affected her mentally that it made it hard for her to separate her 1st and 2nd lives and her views for her "brother"... The complications in the end could be avoided if only he took time to let her adjust.

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IenoAT
IenoAT rated it
June 5, 2020
Status: --
It's a good novel fluffy at the beginning and kinda turned sad at the end, I loved how rou grow up.. It was so heart warming

her relationship with cao yang with really good not rushed.. I liked that she didn't like him early cause she needed time to mature and realize her feeling from treating him like a brother to Treat him like a real lover

what I didn't like the most and why I took away a star how the author kept describing her as an obedient girl a girl... more>> how knew her place and was aware that she is not the smartest out there I felt it was describing a pet not a human being.. Chinese culture have these concepts that girls must be brainless and obedient and in most novel or tv dramas the ML must be super smart and amazing in every aspect while the FL lead would just be decoration that magnify his brilliance ?

i wished coa an had an better ending, did he confess to his family? Did they end up together? They were such a sweet couple so I wished there was an satisfying happy ever after for them <<less
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summerspring
summerspring rated it
June 2, 2020
Status: Completed
It was a nice story. I feel like the momentum dropped a bit at the end but I cant blame the author as it was getting somewhat dark towards the end. After chapter 70 it feels like the author cut down on a lot to keep the story short. It wasn't horrible but it did affect my rating for this story as it didn't seem to match the start. Not horrible though. Funny and thought provoking. Really nice.
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Royalkkk
Royalkkk rated it
May 10, 2020
Status: Completed
Quite a great read, best for binge-read. The writing was So calm. Narrative and the translation was well transitioned, and despite the storyline’s calmness, you won’t get tired and seek for the future happenings. Though, one disappointment was that the calmness happened throughout the story, so there wasn’t any excitement felt, just light and calm. The good stuff were rushed. Still a good read, though not a “i am obsessed” feeling.
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Lyn Hitsugaya
Lyn Hitsugaya rated it
May 3, 2020
Status: Completed
I liked it. (・ω・) b

It has quite an unusual twist since, in most of the reincarnation/2nd oportunity novels, there is usually no big trauma or psicological issue differentiating the reality before and the one after but here they actually give it some thought, which is quite novel.

The ML, thought chauvinistic and reckless, is super sweet and cute in his own way. (´͈ ᵕ `͈ )

... more>> The MC is such a lovable person and, thanks to god, not really vengeful, being more into the sweet and delicate kind of person.

The interaction between MC and ML is sweet enouhg to rot your teeth and, the only thing that I particularily disliked is how rushed and abrupt is the end (like I was literaly (´・ω・`) ?... so that´s it? ハッ∑ (゚ロ゚〃).

Anyway, Thanks Author and Translator.

Recommend (´∀`)b <<less
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Ellie44
Ellie44 rated it
December 12, 2019
Status: Completed
I have mix feeling about this story. Very mix feelings.

1. Chauvinist alert. Men here are chauvinistic. I makes me uncomfy a little but still toleratable

2. I kinda like how the MC is having a struggle about her past and her present. She keeps basing things from her past which results in a lot of contradictory.

... more>> 3. The ML is too old for her ah. When she was still 15, I can already feel the s*xual tension. Its giving me pedophilia alert.

4. The ML is forceful.

5. The MC is too obedient to the ml.

6. I feel bad for wei yan. The second male lead.

all in all. It wasnt that bad as long as you can tolerate some things. <<less
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kanjipills
kanjipills rated it
August 26, 2019
Status: c14 part2
I had to drop this story. Not because the story was not great or anything, it was because I didn't like the flow of where the story was going. Nothing wrong against it but it made me uncomfortable.

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Main point: It was uncomfortable for me to learn that ML is one of her siblings.

I had a hint that it might happened but around chapter 14, I was reminded of this gut feel so strongly I had to look for spoilers. Turns out it is true. I liked it at first how she was rebuilding her relationship with the Cao family. I wanted their connection to be purely familial but I guess it won't happen.

To be honest, I never saw ML as the ML-type. I've always viewed him in the story as the 'sibling' for MC.

The age gap was also uncomfortable. It was tolerable with MC's mom and MC's stepdad since they were already at their 30s to 40s. But since I was reading it at the time MC is still 15 and their were already spoilers about who the ML is at MC's current age, I found it unpleasant.

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I will still give it a 4 because so far I have enjoyed it. The translations were sometimes inconsistent, but they were good in general. There are times that the narratives gets repeated, like how MC is so shameful of her past. I know it is for emphasis but it gets kind of tiring of you kept reading about this for almost every chapters. <<less
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RINKO-S
RINKO-S rated it
June 19, 2019
Status: Completed
Well, I admit I was somewhat disappointed in the last 10 parts, although I expected what would happen but I did not expect it to happen that way, I enjoyed it at first but somewhere I started to feel annoyed and finally I could not accept what happened.
I also did not really feel the interactions between the family. I really wanted the novel to be deeper in their relationships, not romantic love, but family love.
Uday the last part of the novel, the rest is ok.

Thanks for the translation... more>> ! <<less
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MsKumiko
MsKumiko rated it
May 10, 2019
Status: c26 part2
I love this story. The translator had done an amazing job, and the author is great too.

If you like stories where the main protagonist goes with the flow of life, then this might be your cup of tea. The bond between our MC, Xia Rou, and the Cao clan is peaceful.

I have a few gripes though.

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Xia Rou can be really spineless and pathetic to some ungodly levels. Such as when she was attacked by that annoying brat, and what she let happen between Cao Yang and He Lili when she could've prevented that.

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There's also

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her weak willed personality is such a stark contrast compared to her past life, but her abrasive attitude wasn't all bad. Her naiveté, inferiority complex, and entitlement was the problem, not making herself more assertive. The author seems to like to emphasize obedience in a child, more specifically a woman.

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TinaCrew
TinaCrew
November 2, 2023
Status: Completed
I don’t usually form any opinion about a novel until I have read at least half of it, but by 10th chapter one thing was absolutely clear to me, poor Xia Rou needs therapy and not just a few sessions but afraid life long therapy. I have read the reviews saying that FL doesn’t have a backbone or her own opinion in her second life, but I think they didn’t take into account her fragile mental state. She had cracks in her psyche since childhood and life later just widened... more>> them first into fissures then practically into Grand Canyon. There might be other characters that had faced much worse life and came out of it stronger but this FL isn’t anything like them. She’s like a turtle that only knows dangers of outside world and refuses to come out of her shell. She has ‘learnt’ from her first life that she can’t be trusted important decisions of her own life, so she does what other ‘smarter’ people think is right most of time. She only wants to avoid getting hurt again in this lifetime and I don’t think she’s absolutely wrong, I think she needs a whole damn lot of therapy🤷‍♀️. <<less
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liappletree
liappletree
July 11, 2023
Status: Completed
8/10, kinda hesitate to put this book on this list as there were aspect where it's lacking n disapointing. I feel like there could be more elaboration and details. Also where is my extra on babies? : (Anyway, as much as I enjoy the pampering romance style, the way the author keeps emphasizing the "brother" role is disturbing. Someone pls find me Cao Yang T.T
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Eeria
Eeria rated it
December 29, 2022
Status: Completed
It’s one of my favorite stories. For some reasons I am compelled to go back reading it every few months. I think it’s because I love the psychological build up in the story? The FL is expressing such a wide range of emotions because of her past and rebirth. The story is quite simple actually with less than 100 chapters but every chapter is full of punch. I normally dislike this kind of weak heroine but here I can’t help but like it and normally I would tend to like... more>> a domineering male lead but in this story, I can’t help but dislike him a bit. Now the romance is a bit creepy with today’s westernized eyes but it is not really the focus. It feels more like a redemption/coming of age story. <<less
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dnd
dnd rated it
December 24, 2022
Status: --
Me personally think the story is nice, the characters also makes sense and not too dramatic (a little bit but not too much). While the plot is also good.

The FL also simple and nice, she understands her capacity and will not outdo thing she is unable to do or unnecessary thing. She is not smart but tactful, so far she is being portrayed as a little sister figure and she's act accordingly to that.

The minus part is how it actually written. This is again only my personal opinion. Idk how... more>> to explain it properly but the story might just too details for me, the way the author want to explain every feeling is quite annoying and sometimes destroying the flow of the story too. Those moments that better been moved fast for the tension are getting dragged over and over by every and each one naration. It's better to use the third pov I think, then use the two or three character pov in the beginning and the end for further LITTLE explanation that could complete the whole 3rd POV in the middle.

Aside from that I find this story interesting <<less
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kra lik
kra lik rated it
December 1, 2022
Status: Completed
the novel is written very well and the translation on point too.

did I say it's written well?? Like the characters are so greatly fleshed out that you can't help but to feel for them. Like for instance, there is the youngest brother who seems like your typical rich kid born with golden spoon until there is this certain type of understanding of why he is maybe acting like so. He seems, dare I say, more tangible. And he isn't even mc!!

I binge read it in few hours and couldn't bring... more>> myself to stop. It's a slow-burn and also bittersweet. Thats why, there is no expectation for "happy ending". But maybe for someone it could be. <<less
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Li-qin32
Li-qin32
September 10, 2022
Status: Completed
I love this novel to death, the only one I disagreed about is the bl part because am not a fan of bl.

But I love the novel, I just want to thank the translator for making it available to read in English.
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