When the ML went after the MC all the way to his hometown and confessed to him and when it was revealed that he has been in love with him for a long time really melted my heart. To think that all the marks on ML’s body was related to MC-wrist scar given by MC in elementary school, eyelid scar given by MC the night he left highschool and the tatoo on ML’s body was also about his love with the MC.

the ML has one-sidedly liked the MC since he was 16, and so when he met him again years later he made his move not wanting to let it pass again but if you call that grooming?? Does every chara who pine and yearn for the other for years is automatically grooming? God help me the reading comprehension skills of some

he used it as an excuse to keep seeing the ML and keep making out, unconsciously- he enjoyed every thing they did but was soooo deep in denial about his sexuality for the longest time

If you were/are attracted to the opposite s*x (be it crush or a budding puppy love) OR thought of raising children when you were young despite not having a specific partner in mind, you are considered straight. Subconsciously, without anyone's prompting, it's to the opposite s*x by default.

Now, can this be changed? The answer is "yes". So are you considered "gay" now afterwards? No. You're most likely has just become "bi".

I mean, the MC's view about getting "bent" and no longer be able to like women at all is a little funny to me. Like you can't control attraction. If you were attracted to girls before, that's a "fact". You will experience the same about them unless something is binding you to not dwell on it much into turning it a full-blown love. Think back on your past history and trust that what you've felt in that very moment is genuine and true because no outside factor was involved in it to influence it to brand it as "false". It's your true thoughts and feelings (much like if you liked a novel after reading it, trust that you really "liked" it even if you happen to read unfavorable comments or reviews roasting it afterwards. Don't pay other people's opinion much into influencing you and think that you're wrong. Liking something despite all the flaws is subjective after all. Same is true if you didn't like something).

Humans are very superficial. Even if you say that you value the "inside" (personality, morals, etc.) more than the "outside" (outward appearance), we like good-looking things in general. Attraction stems to that. It's what we first notice on someone.

And yeah, getting bent is something you can't control and decide for yourself as simply as not eating this or that. Even if you chant it 24/7 i. your head, telling other people you come across "I'm straight", what's the use of it? You can't deceive yourself because there's feelings involved before you brand yourself as one --- and you have no control over it. You can only 'prevent' it by getting less exposure to things that triggers it.

And goodluck to that.

Also, there's no such thing as "born gay". Upbringing, maturity, and environment exposure plays a big part on this. You are "straight" by default. Some are sexually inactive/passive, some are not. You can't just defy human biology. Any thing you do later in life as you gain experience and exposure decides what you become --- with your consent. That's the fairness of life.

Anyways, don't be hard on yourself (if you are gay or a troubled/confused suspected budding one or whatever). I think fear of getting bent should only hover over the 100% possibility of the uncertainty and rough road you have to cross compared to the hetero ones --- which is perfectly understandable. It really needs great consideration before succumbing to it. And I think other people shouldn't be harsh on others about this too because s*xual orientation is not any one's business. It's a personal choice; much like if a couple decides to have a child or not.