There's only one arc where the FL and ML don't grow old together and kind of exist separately until they die, and I sobbed my heart out
(or so she likes to think - I beg to differ, their love is kind of inescapable, there was this one arc where their memories were completely washed and she followed her instincts and STILL found her man)
The first half of the novel depicted the Fengyi Sect as the grand overarching enemy. What made me uncomfortable about the author's depiction of the Fengyi Sect is that they demonized these traits in women: independence, participation in politics, strength. There was a huge emphasis on the traditional role of wives and a preference for the ancient patriarchal system. I'm not trying to defend the Fengyi Sect's other terrible actions though, and I agree that arbitrary killing of innocents and insufferable arrogance are just bad, no matter the gender. It's just that I think the author should have said the Fengyi Sect should be destroyed and their members condemned because of their criminal actions period, and not also because they were trying to 'usurp the patriarchal system'.
The author's depiction fits with the culture and way of things during that particular period of ancient Chinese history. However, as a modern reader, it was uncomfortable for me the way that patriarchal values were promoted with great deference. This won't be a problem to some readers of course, and this shouldn't stop you in any way from reading the novel. The novel is worth a look into! Just fair warning that it's not actually okay to treat women like this in real life.
because he never really got to live out a full life with the heroine even once. He had to spend way too much time pining for her while being all depressed. Damn you, Siming!